In this book, Howard Ross helps us understand the importance of breaking down those barriers, and provides powerful tools for how to do it. From the Forward How are we to engage in healthy bonding and healthy bridging? Unlike many books that diagnose the problems without providing solutions, Ross spends two chapters on how we can bridge our divides by focusing on mutual understanding and coexistence, both as individuals and, perhaps even more importantly, within institutions. This book has something to help all people where they are, and there's not a person out there who wouldn't benefit from the guidance this book provides. Especially in the digital age, when we are all interconnected in one way or another, these tensions seep into our daily lives and we become secluded with our self-identified tribes. However, if we are to transcend the division that we now experience and move toward a more peaceful and equitable societal order, we will also have to learn better how to bridge across those bonded groups. Global diversity and inclusion expert Howard J. Yet my thirty-five years of professional experience in creating sustainable change has taught me that over the long term, transformational change occurs only when we understand why we do the things that we do.
I have spent the night with Felurian and left with both my sanity and my life. Very powerful ideas and very important perspectives. In this book I will be attempting to help explain why we are so pulled to polarized positions, to explain why our demonization of each other is occurring, and to offer hope. . Our Search for Belonging Introduction A Tale of Two Countries It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way. Communities in the United States are becoming more segregated than they have been in years. We have also seen how that same need to belong has allowed people to engage in some of the worst events in human history: the Holocaust, slavery, the Rwandan civil war, et cetera.
He delves deeply into our psyche and neurobiologic drive to connect and shows how that drive to belong overshadows political or other external realities dividing us as a country into warring factions. With perspectives that often contradict conventional wisdom, Robert has earned a reputation for straight talk, irreverence and courage. Back at Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry for his second year, Harry hears strange whispers echo through empty corridors - and then the attacks start. The purpose of this book is to seek to understand these tensions and offer the hope that there are ways to address our differences that can bring healing. Get copies for coworkers, friends, and especially your children. Whether we are engaging in courageous conversations, moving toward bonding and bridging, or seizing the opportunity to recognize and reconcile our urgent need for difference and belonging, this work is the go-to for the why and the how-to. It provides some practical tools and ideas for addressing this in personal and workplace environments.
People who voted for Trump overwhelmingly represent what we might call the dominant identity groups: 58 percent of whites, 53 percent of men, and 58 percent of Christians. Ross offers insight gained from his rich experience, candor, awareness, and most importantly, realistic solutions for ourselves and our workplaces to address this paradox. At an even deeper level, when we look at the 2016 presidential election totals through another lens, an even more troubling pattern arises. At the core of tribalism exists a paradox: as humans, we are hardwired with the need to belong, which ends up making us deeply connected with some yet deeply divided from others. We are living in a time of mounting political segregation that threatens to tear us apart as a unified society. Are you unconsciously dependent on food? During the days of the civil rights movement, northern liberal Republicans worked together with many Democrats; however, some southern Democrats teamed up with other Republicans to oppose landmark legislation.
He examines current events, social science, and neuropsychology to explain this irony—how our 21st-century quest for community separates us from each other. But what starts as a missing person case quickly escalates to a troubling murder investigation. This session will help participants understand the depth and impact of this separation, how it affects every aspect of our daily lives, and explore what we can do about it. But then the Voidbringers assaulted and captured heaven, casting out God and men. It offers a guiding light of innovative and creative thinking grounded in impeccable research and scientific observation.
Now he is transforming our understanding of why we have people in America both tribalizing and too often fighting each other in damaging and dysfunctional tribal ways. This will be another iconic book. Ross is also the bestselling author of ReInventing Diversity and Everyday Bias. Readers will gain tools for exploring contentious dialogue in healthier ways and guidelines for breaking down barriers and building bridges across difference. The result is that we are becoming increasingly tribal, and the narratives of life that we get exposed to on a daily basis have become echo chambers in which we hear our beliefs reinforced and others' beliefs demonized.
Reviews for the book Our search for belonging : how our need to connect is tearing us apart Great book! In this book, neuroscientist and sleep expert Matthew Walker charts 20 years of cutting-edge research. Now she must learn how to navigate the world. With stories and evidence-based examples, Howard helps us better understand the powerful role of the human drive for that sense of belonging. Drawing on evidence from a wide range of disciplines, the book delivers potential solutions for mending our fractured society. We are living in a world of almost unparalleled separation. And at work, people can learn behaviors that produce a more inclusive belonging. Hilarious, horrifying and heartbreaking, this diary is everything you wanted to know - and more than a few things you didn't - about life on and off the hospital ward.
The result has been that these extreme, homogeneous sides have cannibalized reasonable political discourse and shifted our sense of normalcy from an expectation that we will have to work together to a win-lose dynamic in which each side strives to win at all costs. Drawing upon decades of leadership experience, Ross probes the depth of tribalism, examines the role of social media in exacerbating it, and offers tactics for how to combat it. The boy is dead but the girl is alive. The result is that we are becoming increasingly tribal, and the narratives of life that we get exposed to on a daily basis have become echo chambers in which we hear our beliefs reinforced and others' beliefs demonized. Most people, however, find that it is limiting to the fullness of our lives if we only relate to people with whom we bond. It offers a guiding light of innovative and creative thinking grounded in impeccable research and scientific observation.
The goal of the book is to help people understand these dynamics and to develop ways to bridge the divide so that we can move toward an ever more harmonious future. Howard Ross Howard Ross is a lifelong social justice advocate and the Founding Partner of Cook Ross. Especially in the digital age, when we are all interconnected in one way or another, these tensions seep into our daily lives and we become secluded with our self-identified tribes. We ask that requests for accommodations be made as soon as possible. He then explains how bonding, like our biases, can take unhealthy, destructive and dangerous forms. At last, here is the book we have been waiting for! Drawing on his decades of leadership in the diversity and inclusion field, Ross probes the depth and impact of this growing tribalism, the role social media plays in exacerbating it, the ways it impacts every aspect of the daily lives, and how to combat it. Howard Ross offers a compelling observation of how we associate with those most like us and how it's created a dangerous polarization.